Jest Abuse

Jest Abuse

If these types of exchanges aren’t harmful enough when done in private, imagine how someone feels when the same situation plays out in front of friends and family. On the outside, to some people, Sarah’s “joke” might seem light-hearted at best. It might make others feel uncomfortable and sorry for Jack because Sarah is mocking her husband’s attire in public. This simply adds to Jack’s sense of shame. The casual observer doesn’t know Jack battles with social anxiety so they might not be sensitive to how harmful the situation is and might actually join Sarah in her mocking.

A murderer and a domestic abuser walks into a bar, the bartender then says
"What'll it be officer".

A guy was getting a lot of abuse from two kids at a supermarket.
So the guy says to the mother are they twins? Mother replies how the fuck can they be twins, one is 9 and the other one is 6 the guy replies, well I didn't think anyone could fuck you twice...

The second man wishes for a healthy and long life. He decides to abuse his wis...
Mom: Why don't you talk to John anymore?

This just goes to show...
Worldwide, millions die from alcohol abuse each year....
Its truly a horrible ginocide.

So if it’s not just swearing, what is verbal abuse?  Here are 15 ways verbal abuse might show up in an unhealthy relationship.
Abusive Anger

The primary aim of these forms of verbal abuse is to prevent discussion, end communication and withhold information.  You may get frustrated when you are pulled continuously off-topic.  Common statements you might hear include “You always have to have the last word.” and, “You think you know it all.”
Red Herring.

Another way abusers use abuse disguised as a joke is to say or do things you do not like at all, then laugh about it as if it were funny. For example, I don’t like racist or sexist jokes, but my abuser consistently tells them to me, then berates me for not “admitting” they are funny.

Verbal abuse can begin as small digs disguised as jokes. Your boyfriend or husband teases, ridicules and humiliates you with sarcastic remarks about your appearance, personality, abilities and values. If you tell him, “I don’t think that’s funny,” or you ask him to stop “poking fun at you” he may become defensive, irritated or angry.

If we look at verbal abuse as a means of maintaining control and power over someone, we can think of the types of verbal abuse listed and explained in this post as being ways that someone tries to dominate or control their partner.

Your boyfriend or husband teases, ridicules and humiliates you with sarcastic remarks about your appearance, personality, abilities and values.

Abusers disguise verbal abuse as jokes, but even if the joke makes the abuser (and others) laugh, it's not funny. You're not too sensitive. It's verbal abuse.

Jest Abuse: For example, I don’t like racist or sexist jokes, but my abuser consistently tells them to me, then berates me for not “admitting” they are funny. So if it’s not just swearing, what is verbal abuse?  Verbal abuse can begin as small digs disguised as jokes. 


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