As his spouse, Sarah is intimately aware of Jack’s deep vulnerability in these settings. He also has repeatedly expressed to her that these kinds of comments upset him. Her continual joking at his expense becomes deliberate verbal abuse. It’s not merely picking away at a personal point of annoyance. It minimizes the desires and feelings of the other person. Sarah knowingly took advantage of Jack’s vulnerabilities and then tried to cover it up by calling it all a joke.
What’s the difference between a aligator and a child?
A boy named Carol had a particularly rough childhood because of his uncommon name. He always got a lot of teasing and abuse at school. Eventually, he overcame his hang-up and married his high-school sweetheart.
When their first child was born, he let his wife name her.
A 15-year old boy came home with a Porsche.
His parents began to yell and scream. “Where did you get that car?”
16yo with a part time job at McDonald's comes home in a new Porsche Panamera Turbo S.
His mom screams at him, "HOW THE HELL DID YOU BUY THAT PORSCHE, WE KNOW WHAT IT COSTS."
I called the cops after hearing my neighbor yelling and screaming at his cup of tea for hours on end
It was herbal abuse
This form of anger includes swearing, raised voices, e.g. shouting, screaming and yelling. In this context, abusive anger is a tool to control ensuring that you do what your partner wants you to do.
Stonewalling or Withholding
Any form of yelling and screaming, particularly out of context. Even yelling “Shut up!” is abusive. No one deserves to be yelled at.
Disguising a hurtful comment as a joke is one of the many signs of verbal abuse, but I didn't know this at the time. Like many others, I believed I was just too sensitive; that if I wasn't so insecure I could handle his "banter" and we would get along just fine.
“It takes a quick mind to come up with ways of disparaging the partner either crassly or with wit and style. This kind of abuse is not done in jest. It cuts to the quick, touches the most sensitive areas, and leaves the abuser with a look of triumph. This abuse never seems funny because it isn’t funny.” — Patricia Evans, The Verbally Abusive Relationship.
"Aww, thanks babe," she replied.
Scream Abuse: A boy named Carol had a particularly rough childhood because of his uncommon name. He always got a lot of teasing and abuse at school. This abuse never seems funny because it isn’t funny.” It was herbal abuse.