If these types of exchanges aren’t harmful enough when done in private, imagine how someone feels when the same situation plays out in front of friends and family. On the outside, to some people, Sarah’s “joke” might seem light-hearted at best. It might make others feel uncomfortable and sorry for Jack because Sarah is mocking her husband’s attire in public. This simply adds to Jack’s sense of shame. The casual observer doesn’t know Jack battles with social anxiety so they might not be sensitive to how harmful the situation is and might actually join Sarah in her mocking.